You’re in the club

You’re in the club

A while ago I was stopped in a line up of cars at a red light and in front of me was a person on a motorcycle.  I also observed that across the intersection was another person on a motorcycle.  This was not unusual to see cyclists or motorcyclists because it was midsummer.  What struck me as odd or very interesting, was once the traffic started moving, the two motorcycle guys made a “hi, how ya doing” wave of their hands at each other and I immediately thought, ‘hey, they’re in “the club”’.  It was odd because neither were wearing “the colours” of a club, or had the same motorcycle, or maybe weren’t even the same sex (who could tell with their helmets on?) or anything that would make me think they were in a club but all the same, they obviously felt some sort of brotherhood/sisterhood, or kinship with each other.

As I started to reflect on this, because that’s what one does, when one has these sorts of random insights, I realized that so often we aspire to be in some sort of club or at least want to feel like we belong.  I suppose it’s human nature.  As a child I was a Brownie, a Girl Guide, part of the Drama club, a singer in a Jazz choir and a member on a few sports teams.  But, I have also felt the sting of not being part of the “inside/cool girls” clique, not getting a spot on the team, or the lead in the musical.

As an adult we learn to deal with life’s disappointments.  We learn to grow a thicker skin and we move on and learn that we are not going to be liked by everyone and we are not going to fit into every group. We choose our friends, who we want to spend time with, what clubs/organizations we want to join and we choose activities and people within those groups who mirror our interests.

My interest in fitness was never part of my desire to become a member of a club. Over the years it has certainly become sort of like that, but my initial interest was purely self serving. I wanted to get fit and healthy for ME!!!  I did not feel any sense of needing to be in a club or to be part of a group. I knew I needed to get fit first for myself and secondly for those around me. It was an awakening of a true sense of self that propelled me to want to take care of myself, be healthier and live to see and play with my grandkids (some day).  But as I have journeyed into the fitness world and made some great friends and networked, I have in some small way become a part of a club. I have colleagues, mentors, friends and clients who are also in the club. Giving my time and energy to this “club” has improved my life, my sense of self, my attitudes and enriched my life beyond my dreams.

So whether it is by choice to join an organization, a “true”club or just to hanging out in a certain coffee shop or a gym, being part of a club can be a wonderful thing. It raises your awareness of who you are in relationship to others and can also make you ponder if you want to be part of the club or just have a kinship with people who have the same interests as you…..just like the guys on the motorcycles.  So the next time you are at a gym, a coffee shop, or at a group/club meeting take a look around and be thankful for the kinship you have with others in that moment.  They may look like they are just random people taking part in whatever, but they may also be there to teach you something about yourself, if you choose to take time to wonder about random insights.

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Before and After

Before and After

I am a sucker for “Before” and “After” transformations.  I love to see what people can achieve and where they started to where they are in their “after”.  But these people are so much more than the photos or TV episodes that they share.  They are people just like me, or my clients who have struggles  and successes, families and friends and a life.

Do you ever think of your life in terms of “Before” and “After”?  For instance, before and after:  graduating school, marriage, kids, someone’s death or accident or disease? Some of these things can be positive and some can be downright sad or depressing.  As with anything it’s all in our perspective. You can look forward to the “after” or you can be stressed and/or paralysed with fear about the after or the unknown.

When we are in the now, or the “before” we wonder what the “after” will be like. In some instances it can fill us with anticipation or with dread.  But I want to suggest that we relish and embrace the now or the “before”, because being in the moment and knowing that you have the ability to move forward and get to the “after” is part of the beauty of the journey.

It has taken me a long time and much effort to transition to this way of thinking and being in the present.  I have learned to enjoy the journey and to make every effort to be prese
nt even in the tough times on my way to “after”.  During my Mum’s illness, I tried very hard to be present and to relish every moment I had with her.  Even though my “after” was having to deal with her death and not having her in my life, I remember those present moments with love and fondness.

In fitness, we are most often on a quest to an after….”after I lose 10-20-30 lbs”, “after I achieve ?”, “after I run this race” etc etc.  What we fail to realize is that there is growth in the journey! Being present and learning about ourselves, our bodies, and our emotions (cuz let’s face it, we do have some crazy emotions when we are prepping for something big!) is part of the process.

I am sharing this with you because I wanted very much to have some “Before and After”pictures of me on my website. I wanted to show that with dedication and proper programming and nutrition you can transform your body and make progress.  BUT, in the process, what I learned is that I am SO much more than the transformation. I learned about my strength, my stubbornness, my dedication, my integrity, my passions, my friendships, my family,  and most of all about my willingness to make mistakes along the way and to not give up and to enjoy the journey.  I am SO much more than “Before and After” photos!! Here they are anyway! J

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In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Why I am writing a blog

Why I am writing a blog

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Isn’t everyone writing a blog these days?  Maybe I am wrong in this perception but that is NOT why I am writing a blog.  I am writing not because it’s “expected” of me, but rather because I want the ability to connect with my clients and other people, to share my wisdom/life experiences, and to offer encouragement and support.

As a small child writing became a way for me to process life and to get my feelings out and to have a record of what was happening in my life from day to day.  I remember my very first diary had a red plaid cover with gold edged pages and a tiny little lock.  The lock was very important to me because I didn’t want my brothers to read my diary.  I wrote about school, how I hated math, how I “loved” a certain boy and how much drama was going on at school.

I guess I got my love of writing about life from my mum. She always wrote in a journal and would even journal about our family vacations. Now that she is gone, my brothers and I treasure those vacation journals as a very special part of our mum. And I treasure that I have my mum’s voice in my head as I read them and love seeing her beautiful teacher handwriting.

I journal pretty much every morning and have done so for many years.  I have many filled journals with my horrible handwriting…I did not inherit my mum’s lovely script!  To have a written record of my life makes me happy and to know where I have been and what I have learned along the way spurs me on to new revelations and to wanting to learn more about myself and the world around me.  Most often this is a reminder to me that life is not stagnant. To keep moving is life’s way of making us learn and grow from our experiences, our joys and our pain.

Journalling about my gym experiences has also taught me so much about myself. It isn’t so much about my personal goals and how much I have lifted or how many squats I have done, but where my head was at on a given day and how I pulled myself out of a funk or how joyful I was at the gym when I helped someone or even how empowered I felt just sweating it out to my 70’s music.

I hope that you will enjoy reading my blog posts, as much as I will enjoy “writing” them. I intend to share my life with you and chat about life, fitness, nutrition, mindset, and anything else that strikes my fancy that I think will be encouraging and uplifting to you.

Till my next post….enjoy life and remember fitness is a journey worth taking!

Coach Lori

ps. If only that picture above could be me on a beach writing my blog….maybe some day!?