Are you following “the rules”?

Are you following “the rules”?

 

Are you a rule follower?  Are you strict with yourself about working out and nutrition, to the point where you actually struggle sometimes and feel like a failure if you aren’t perfect?  Are you strict about following the rules about your life, your family, your job?

I know back in the day when I was managing people in retail, my staff used to call me the Nazi. I was such a stickler for the rules and how things should be done. Granted, there were rules from Head office that needed to be adhered to, but some of my obsessiveness was just born out of my own perfectionism. There was no space for nuance, only rules, and only one way to do things—the right way.

As I have gotten older and wiser,  I’ve since retired from that role….well semi-retired!  There is a part of me that still feels drawn to the allure of rules, of order, and integrity. But, I am more easy going in just about every area of my life because I have realized that most of the rules that I was following were self inflicted and didn’t always serve me.

Some rules are necessary and exist to keep us safe. Other rules are ones we devise in our jobs, our life, or a relationship to preserve the harmony and integrity of all parties involved. Rules are often in place for a purpose, but sometimes…. the rules don’t always work.rules

Sometimes we follow rules because we simply don’t know another way. We haven’t done the internal work to figure out what we truly want or need.  In following some rules, we can lose touch with our core feelings and desires—we can stray from the path we truly wish to follow. But here’s a universal truth: One of the most important things you can do in this life is commit to showing up as your true self.

In 2017, I have some fitness goals and some nutrition changes I want to make but I am going to be as relaxed about “the rules” as I possibly can, to reach my goals but also to live my life with passion and compassion. I don’t want to be following the rules from feelings of unworthiness or from perfectionism. I am going to trust my inner guide and my gut, and not just blindly follow societal or self- imposed rules.

As I have relaxed in general, and a whole lot on rule following, and pursued life with more ease and intuition and spirit filled joy, my desire for more honesty, integrity and passion has emerged even stronger.

So, as we close out 2016 and embark on 2017, what are your goals, your dreams, your passions?  And are you going to find them or figure them out from a place of integrity, honesty and worthiness or will you be a blind rule follower?

Some things to consider…….Are there any rules you might be following that are keeping you from showing up as your true self? Rules that don’t actually make your life better? Who makes these rules? And do they even work?

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Life is too short!!

Life is too short!!

Happy 103 Birthday Grandma!!grandma-and-me

They say life is short!  In the case of my Grandma Moore…..life has been 103 years long so far!  When you see an elderly person, over  80, 90, or 100, can you even imagine the life they have lived?  Can you imagine the things they have seen, accomplished and endured?

I know that I spend lots of time, wasting time and dwelling on things that ultimately don’t matter.  As proven by my Grandma, life can be very long indeed.  Are you going to spend your time with the people you love, who encourage, support and motivate you?  Or are you going to spend time with people who bring you down, speak badly to you or about you and don’t encourage or support you?  Are you going to spend time doing things that you love, that challenge and excite you?  Or, time doing mundane, unexciting things that do not challenge you and excite you.

Time is a commodity and we don’t ever get back minutes that we waste. I know I have a very bad habit of “wasting” time watching Netflix when I could be crafting, reading, sewing, or spending time with friends.  Doing things I LOVE.  I am not saying that relaxing and taking some time to just “veg” is not OK.  What I AM saying is don’t let time slip away and allow yourself to miss doing the things you really want to do, or be with the people that you really want to be with!

My Grandma has seen a lot in her life time: the Model T Ford, the telephone, the phonograph, black and white and colour TV, a man on the moon, computers, the internet, social media, fast food, advances in medicine, science, education, and so much more.  She has also endured WWII, her husband going to war, the births of 5 children, the death of one of her children (my mom) and many other tragedies that I am surely not aware of.

How can we say life is short when she and many others have seen and endured, and accomplished so many things.  I guess in the grand scheme of things, if you believe in God and eternity, our time here is fleeting but when you hold the microscope up to Grandma’s life…..it sure has been long!

And if life is GOING to be long…..don’t you want to live it in the best way possible….strong and healthy and well?  At 103, my Grandma still reads and does crossword puzzles without glasses.  Until a few years ago, she still was able to get around with a walker.  Time has taken its toll but in her younger days, she was a great swimmer, basketball player and did many active things.  She obviously has great genes that have kept her well, and throughout her life, I do not remember her ever being sick.

Even though I am hoping that I have Grandma’s longevity, I know that I am going to do my best to do what I can to make my life, full, exciting and healthy. Training, great nutrition and an attitude of gratitude will go a long way to fulfilling these goals.

What about you?  How will you make the most of your life? I would be happy to hear your comments!

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori