This past weekend there was an annual gathering of some amazing, strong, empowered, business ass-kicking women trainers who I follow on social media. Unfortunately the weekend took place in the U.S. far away from where I live and I was unable to attend. The event is called the Radiance Retreat. Isn’t that a great name for a Retreat for women?
Knowing I was missing the retreat had me wondering what they were going to be talking about and whether anyone had come back feeling more Radiant and then of course my mind started wandering and wondering what exactly does Radiant mean to women, and to me?
The Google definition of radiant is: sending out light; shining or glowing brightly. Synonyms: shining, bright, brilliant, glowing, luminescent, lustrous, dazzling, shimmering, resplendent
I love all of these words but I would also add a few more to my definition of a Radiant woman: courageous, fearlessly authentic, healthy, truthful, faithful, amazing, loving, worthy, precious and nurturing.
While the retreat is called the Radiant Retreat, the theme this year was Taking up Space. So how does taking up space and being Radiant go together?
Recently on social media and certainly in the musings of the women I follow, there has been a lot of chatter about “taking up space” and “not shrinking ourselves” and “playing bigger”.
I have been feeling for some time that I’ve been holding myself back from taking up space. I have not been glowing, shining, dazzling, felt worthy or any of the other words in my definition or Google’s definition from above. I suppose a lot of how you show up in the world starts with Mindset (if you have been following me, you know this is my word for 2017) Our transformation always begins in our minds!!
I have been playing it small, shrinking back, minimizing my potential impact and all because of fear and listening to the broken record in my head that says I am not worthy, that I have nothing to say and that I am NOT radiant. Well you know what?……I am throwing the BS flag on this one!!!
I AM RADIANT AND I DO HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY!!!
I will be fearlessly authentic and show my vulnerabilities and my gifts to the world and I will shine!!!
As women, it’s not unusual to spend a lot of time trying to downplay our strengths and in Christian circles we are told not to be prideful! We’re told by others and society to not be so bold, to soften ourselves, and to make our bodies smaller…all so we can take up less space.
Sometimes, we’re point blank told to sit down, shut up, and be less _______ (fill in the blank), and other times we are “gently encouraged or told to be smaller”, “lose weight”, “oh you have such a pretty face, if only you were thinner”, “you have a BIG personality” and on and on it goes!
I remember as a child being told that I was too outspoken and too bold. I was never rude so how could I have been too outspoken or too bold? We know we need to encourage in our young girls, these traits, of boldness, shining with empowerment, taking up space, being authentic and fearless. (Rabbit trail….I do however think that the pendulum has also swung very wide sometimes when we see the kind of aggressive and offensive sexualized images of women in the media …IMO!!)
I have spent a lot of the years of my life trying to minimize my body and my voice, to make them conform, because I have listened to society’s values, and not my own (or God’s). Maybe you can relate?
However, I am realizing late in my life that I DO have something to say and that I CAN take up whatever space my life needs and I CAN show the world my gifts and talents without fear of rejection and ridicule because that is what I am called to do. That is why I was given this distinct personality and these gifts.
Does this take courage? Heck YES it does!!!!
Even the most brave, courageous women I know have felt not worthy, not courageous and not shiny BUT……they looked for ways to show up bigger in life, felt the fear, acknowledged it, and went for it!
We are all Radiant! We all have something to offer the world. How will you open yourself up to the possibilities and shine?
In health and fitness,