BECOMING! It brings to mind the caterpillar and the butterfly. Both equally beautiful and unique in their own way, but both growing and transforming into what they are meant to be.
September is often a time of change, growth and re-grouping. So, it’s a great time to do some mid-year reflections. It’s the start of a new school year for many, and a back to work season for most. Through all of what might be happening in your life, have you ever considered the person you are becoming? Is this something that resonates with you?
Wikipedia defines ”becoming” in these ways:
In philosophy, the concept of becoming originated in eastern ancient Greece with the philosopher Heraclitus of Ephesus, who in the sixth century BC, said that nothing in this world is constant except change and becoming.
Becoming may refer to:
- Becoming (philosophy), the dynamic aspect of being, in philosophical ontology
- Becoming, the condition for continued rebirth, according to Buddhism
- Becoming, a term used for potentiality
(especially of clothing) flattering a person’s appearance. flattering, attractive, lovely, pretty, handsome, fetching.
“what a becoming dress!”
the process of coming to be something or of passing into a state.
I think we all want to be perceived like the adjectives above (attractive, lovely, pretty etc.), but consider the other positive words above, such as: continued rebirth, potentiality, coming to be something.
I believe that God created us to always be changing and becoming. We are also programmed to be in a state of homeostasis/balance but that doesn’t mean that we aren’t growing. Sometimes it is painful and hard, and you wonder why things are happening “to you”, but they really aren’t. They are happening “for” you. “Becoming” could be an opportunity for growth, introspection and learning. If we are out of balance, it will start to reveal itself. Our mental health suffers, as does our physical health (eventually, your body will let you know you are out of sync).
If you are considering doing some reflection and want to know if you are “becoming”, here are some questions to consider and ask yourself:
Are you growing, learning and transforming? Or are you staying static? Are you open to trying new things? How would you describe yourself right now? How do you define yourself? Do you let others define you? Are you a creative person? Are you using your time wisely? Do you have a healthy perspective about yourself and your life? Do you know what is true about yourself? Are you living in that truth? What are your beliefs and values? Who are the most important people in your life? Does money and status matter to you? What makes you happy? What stresses you out? Why do you let things stress you out? Do you enjoy being out in nature? Do you have a belief in a higher power? What scares the crap out of you? What are you truly grateful for? Do you have people who will kick you in the butt, when you need it and also let you cry on their shoulder?
There are so many more questions that you could ask yourself. Here are a couple of sites to check out too. https://www.coachingpositiveperformance.com/7-personal-development-questions-must-ask/
Some of the questions, may require a lot of digging deep to reveal the answers and the real you. It will take courage, compassion and conviction. Comfort and courage rarely go together. As Brene Brown says, “You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort, but you cannot have both.”
Of course there are always silly and easy ways to try and figure out who you are and if you are “becoming”. I recently took one of those Facebook tests about who you are, and I wondered if the “mighty FB” could figure me out. It was a fun way to see how truthful it would be.
Here is what it said:
You are very artistic and you crave adventure. You strive to be a good natured person. You like to put others before yourself, but you have to remember it’s always good to treat yourself also. You love nature and animals, and to be outside all the time. You have a fierce side as well, but only to the people that deserve it. You have trust issues, because you have been hurt so many times. You have a great sense of humour and there should be so many more people out there that are like you. You are one of a kind.
This was pretty much right on the money, and even the things that weren’t quite right, made me wonder if they should be…like “craving adventure”? I really don’t think that I crave adventure, although my husband would be happy if I did! HA!
Becoming. How I love this word and all that it means for me. I would love if it meant something to you too. Consider how it might change your life, if you took some time to reflect on who you are, and how you show up in the world.
If you do some reflection and want to share, please reach out to me and let me know. I would be honoured to hear your story.
In health and fitness,