Even Coaches Need Help!

Even Coaches Need Help!

animated frustrationI am being completely transparent with you today….I have been struggling.  Yup, I said it!  I have always struggled with my weight and my body image and not feeling worthy, and the beginning of this year was no different from any other year, except this year I had hope, and a plan and a real feeling of inspiration that 2017 was going to be different.

For years I yo-yoed my way through my life and I thought I had figured out this nutrition stuff and exercise stuff a few years ago and was well on my way to combating my “demons”. But what I didn’t realize was that I didn’t re-learn some core truths about those things or about myself.  I needed to dig deep (as Brene Brown says) and to really understand my,  WHY!  Why do I use food to comfort me, why do I feel I deserve a treat, why do I use food as a reward, why do I need something sweet after a meal….why why, why?

So, even though I am certified in healthy eating and weight loss and can offer plans to people and suggestions for them, I needed to gain some control over my own life and what was happening in this aging changing body!  What is the saying….”the shoemaker’s kids have no shoedear stomach
s”?  It isn’t as easy telling yourself what to do and doing it.  So, I hired a nutritionist to help me. YUP, even coaches need help!

I have been at it for a few weeks now and while I haven’t been completely compliant (I’m working  on it), I have learned a lot about myself and what my true, authentic goals are. And isn’t this what we all want….to really understand ourselves and why we do certain things and why we live our lives a certain way?  Each day I get a new short lesson to do and to think about. I am loving it because it forces me to take some time to really dig deep and to figure things out and its only 15 minutes.  My answers go to my coach/nutritionist and she sometimes comments and gives feedback, which I like but what I like more is what I am learning about myself and my WHY.

I wanted to share with yopostcardu today’s lesson: it was to write a Destination Postcard to yourself. This means to write a letter and/or create a postcard/ vision board of where you want to be in a year.  There are 3 questions to ask yourself,  what do you want to do, who/what do you want to be and how will you feel ?  I did this small exercise and was surprised by my answers.  You are encouraged to dream BIG and not let anything sway you from what you are creating. I did my vision board/postcard on Pinterest so that I can add to it if I choose. The letter I wrote to my future self was also a fun way of seeing where I am now and where I want to go and in a year I will see if all of it has come to fruition.

I highly encourage you to try this easy exercise and to think about what you really want this year. January is almost done and have you fallen off your resolution wagon already? Perhaps digging deep and truly finding your WHY will be helpful in reaching your goals.

We all need a little help sometime, so don’t be afraid to go for it and ask. I am here to help with your health and fitness goals and yes even your nutrition goals. I have lots to share and am happy to inspire and cheer you on.

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Who are you inspiring?

Who are you inspiring?

I spent the weekend with my family! Normally this is for a big happy occasion, like Thanksgiving, Christmas, weddings or family reunions. Unfortunately, we also get together for funerals and memorial services and this weekend sadly happened to be one of those times.

It is always great to see my extended family. I did not grow up seeing them very often and do not have a particularly close relationship with them because we had a family business that often kept us from attending events. But I love my cousins, aunts and uncles and of course now there is another generation with all of us having kids!  It is an unruly and boisterous bunch.  What I have come to love is that we can catch up and tell each other about our current life but there is always chatter about what shenanigans we got into as kids too. These always start with, “remember the time when….”

But at this not so happy event one of my younger cousins, Erin, told me that she has been following my Fitness Journey posts and she gave me the kindest compliment. She said “I have been following your posts and you are such an inspiration. I love what you write and how passionate you are”.  I was SO surprised thcoachingat she felt this way, and that she told me this.  I was flustered and very bashfully accepted the compliment.

As you know if you have read my bio, I have always (still) struggled with my body image and large Dutch frame. Erin is a beautiful person on the inside and out.  She is stunningly gorgeous and has a degree in Kinesiology and knows a lot about the human body and exercise. It was mind boggling to me that she would feel this way about me….little old me!  This only went to prove to me that you can and should be passionate about your life and “career” and that being self deprecating does you a disservice. You don’t know who you are reaching and inspiring as you go about your day to day business. So be confident in what you do. Be joyful in your life and consider that the people who are watching, reading or hearing you will be inspired if you passionately express yourself!

The other message I took away from my weekend was that I do not come from a very healthy gene pool! My paternal grandfather passed away at age 57 from a heart attack, 2 uncles and one aunt also have died from heart attacks, my dad had a heart attack at age 67 (as did my mom), and a few of my younger cousins have already had heart by-pass.  Plus we also have the dreaded cancer in our history. I have always known that my family medical history is not great but as I ruminated on all of this, I realized that not only did I get into this line of work because I am passionate about helping people but I am also passionate because of my family history. I am going to do everything in my power to combat against heart disease, obesity, diabetes, and cancer.igetgreatjoy-730x420

So, not only do I want to be an inspiration to others, I also want to inspire myself. To do all and be all I can be for myself and my family.  Consider thinking about who and what you want to inspire in yourself and others as we begin 2017!!

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Are you following “the rules”?

Are you following “the rules”?

 

Are you a rule follower?  Are you strict with yourself about working out and nutrition, to the point where you actually struggle sometimes and feel like a failure if you aren’t perfect?  Are you strict about following the rules about your life, your family, your job?

I know back in the day when I was managing people in retail, my staff used to call me the Nazi. I was such a stickler for the rules and how things should be done. Granted, there were rules from Head office that needed to be adhered to, but some of my obsessiveness was just born out of my own perfectionism. There was no space for nuance, only rules, and only one way to do things—the right way.

As I have gotten older and wiser,  I’ve since retired from that role….well semi-retired!  There is a part of me that still feels drawn to the allure of rules, of order, and integrity. But, I am more easy going in just about every area of my life because I have realized that most of the rules that I was following were self inflicted and didn’t always serve me.

Some rules are necessary and exist to keep us safe. Other rules are ones we devise in our jobs, our life, or a relationship to preserve the harmony and integrity of all parties involved. Rules are often in place for a purpose, but sometimes…. the rules don’t always work.rules

Sometimes we follow rules because we simply don’t know another way. We haven’t done the internal work to figure out what we truly want or need.  In following some rules, we can lose touch with our core feelings and desires—we can stray from the path we truly wish to follow. But here’s a universal truth: One of the most important things you can do in this life is commit to showing up as your true self.

In 2017, I have some fitness goals and some nutrition changes I want to make but I am going to be as relaxed about “the rules” as I possibly can, to reach my goals but also to live my life with passion and compassion. I don’t want to be following the rules from feelings of unworthiness or from perfectionism. I am going to trust my inner guide and my gut, and not just blindly follow societal or self- imposed rules.

As I have relaxed in general, and a whole lot on rule following, and pursued life with more ease and intuition and spirit filled joy, my desire for more honesty, integrity and passion has emerged even stronger.

So, as we close out 2016 and embark on 2017, what are your goals, your dreams, your passions?  And are you going to find them or figure them out from a place of integrity, honesty and worthiness or will you be a blind rule follower?

Some things to consider…….Are there any rules you might be following that are keeping you from showing up as your true self? Rules that don’t actually make your life better? Who makes these rules? And do they even work?

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Life is too short!!

Life is too short!!

Happy 103 Birthday Grandma!!grandma-and-me

They say life is short!  In the case of my Grandma Moore…..life has been 103 years long so far!  When you see an elderly person, over  80, 90, or 100, can you even imagine the life they have lived?  Can you imagine the things they have seen, accomplished and endured?

I know that I spend lots of time, wasting time and dwelling on things that ultimately don’t matter.  As proven by my Grandma, life can be very long indeed.  Are you going to spend your time with the people you love, who encourage, support and motivate you?  Or are you going to spend time with people who bring you down, speak badly to you or about you and don’t encourage or support you?  Are you going to spend time doing things that you love, that challenge and excite you?  Or, time doing mundane, unexciting things that do not challenge you and excite you.

Time is a commodity and we don’t ever get back minutes that we waste. I know I have a very bad habit of “wasting” time watching Netflix when I could be crafting, reading, sewing, or spending time with friends.  Doing things I LOVE.  I am not saying that relaxing and taking some time to just “veg” is not OK.  What I AM saying is don’t let time slip away and allow yourself to miss doing the things you really want to do, or be with the people that you really want to be with!

My Grandma has seen a lot in her life time: the Model T Ford, the telephone, the phonograph, black and white and colour TV, a man on the moon, computers, the internet, social media, fast food, advances in medicine, science, education, and so much more.  She has also endured WWII, her husband going to war, the births of 5 children, the death of one of her children (my mom) and many other tragedies that I am surely not aware of.

How can we say life is short when she and many others have seen and endured, and accomplished so many things.  I guess in the grand scheme of things, if you believe in God and eternity, our time here is fleeting but when you hold the microscope up to Grandma’s life…..it sure has been long!

And if life is GOING to be long…..don’t you want to live it in the best way possible….strong and healthy and well?  At 103, my Grandma still reads and does crossword puzzles without glasses.  Until a few years ago, she still was able to get around with a walker.  Time has taken its toll but in her younger days, she was a great swimmer, basketball player and did many active things.  She obviously has great genes that have kept her well, and throughout her life, I do not remember her ever being sick.

Even though I am hoping that I have Grandma’s longevity, I know that I am going to do my best to do what I can to make my life, full, exciting and healthy. Training, great nutrition and an attitude of gratitude will go a long way to fulfilling these goals.

What about you?  How will you make the most of your life? I would be happy to hear your comments!

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

What is your Crucible?

What is your Crucible?

 

Interestingly enough, we don’t use the word “crucible” very much these days.  It’s a very old fashioned word and for this reason we probably don’t even know what it means.  I suppose for some of us, we recognize the word from Arthur Miller’s play ‘The Crucible’, which was loosely based on the Salem witch trials. I came across this word in my reading today and thought to myself how does this relate to our health and fitness?  I think it’s a fair and valid question when you know the definition of the word.

The Webster’s dictionary definition of “crucible” is:

  • a pot in which metals or other substances are heated to a very high temperature or melted
  • a difficult test or challenge,
  • a place or situation that forces people to change or make difficult decisions

Obviously we are not pots, but we do get ourselves into hot water sometimes and we do feel as though we are overheating (hello cardio!).  But, what about the other two variations of the definition?  Are you currently facing a difficult test or challenge?  Are you in a situation that is forcing you to change or make a difficult decision? It would appear that these definitions have a negative connotation, but perhaps not.  Facing tests or challenges or a situation where you are forced to make a change, can be positive. It may not feel like it in the moment, but anything that propels us forward is an opportunity for growth.  And growth is always good!challenges

Is your challenge: finding time to work out, resisting eating those foods you know are not going to serve your goals, trying to move past a fear of the gym in order to start working out, fear in any shape or form, learning new exercises and becoming proficient at them, etc?

Is your situation that is forcing you to make a change: a health scare, a divorce, an unhappy work situation, an injury, financial insecurity, etc?

Whatever your “crucible” is, it doesn’t have to derail your progress, stop you from making a change, or keep you stuck.  Consider the worst case scenario, and the “what ifs” and decide to make a tiny, small step towards facing the challenge or situation. It may be learning more time management skills, so you can get to the workouts. It may be going for a walk when you want to eat. It may be screwing up the courage to visit a gym to look around, or even just look in the windows. It may be hiring a trainer who will come to you in your own space, and
will teach you new exercises.  It may be working with your doctor to decide on a course of action and taking the steps needed to get you back to proper health. It may be re-habbing your injury and taking some time off from the gym in order to recover. This may lead you to doing other activities that you can do during an injury season.

There is always a way to work through a situation or a challenge, we just need to keep an open mind and look for alternative ways to get to our goals. Growth, no matter how we get to it, is always a good thing.  We cannot stay static and hope that our lives will become better. We must face our challenges, take the first small step, do the work and enjoy the journey.

So if you are facing a crucible today, have faith that you can face it and make the changes necessary to move yourself towards your goals, dreams and the life that you want!

In health and fitness,
Coach Lori

Blind spots

Blind spots

I spent this morning with an amazing woman and friend.  But while I should have come away feeling great from spending time with my friend, I came away feeling very unsettled!  Why?  Because she challenged me on some of my beliefs and how I see the world and some of my relationships.  Don’t get me wrong, I am not unsettled because she challenged me, but because I didn’t like what I learned about myself.  I thank her for being honest and showing me my blind spots, but that doesn’t mean that I am happy about it!

Isn’t that the way it is sometimes when we don’t want to face things or our belief system?  Sometimes we don’t even realize that we have these blind spots. My friend is incredibly wise and insightful and she obviously saw something in me that needed to be addressed, whether she or I knew it.  I am a strong, compassionate woman but also someone who wears my heart on my sleeve and gets hurt very easily. The hurts can go very deep and when not dealt with can just linger and fester and before we know it they colour how we relate to others.

I am grateful for my years and wisdom at this point in my life and the fact that I am self aware enough to know that I did have some of these blind spots and I can and should deal with them.  But what do you do if you don’t have a wise friend who shows you your blind spots?  Do you just go through life struggling and wondering why?

What if you have been trying to get fit and healthy and tried your darndest to eat healthy and you just can’t seem to get it done?  What then?  Well, my best advice is to do the hard work. Dig deep into yourself and your soul and investigate your triggers. Figure out your WHY.  Do you feel like you deserve that treat, or extra helpiblindsidedng? Why do you feel like that?  Why is food your reward?  What issue from your past makes you feel like that? Did you grow up in a family where food was scarce and money was tight?  Do you not know your self worth? Do you have self esteem issues?  Do you self sabotage? Are you hiding from a bigger pain? Is your idea of good food, skewed?  Do you need to educate yourself about proper nutrition or portions? Whatever the case may be, take some time to yourself and think about the underlying reasons why you have tried and failed in the past.

Getting healthy is more than just eating properly and exercising.  It’s also about becoming whole and being the best version of yourself. Your mental, spiritual, and physical state as well as your soul and relationships must be in balance. Let’s face it, not all of these things will be in complete sync all of the time. Living balanced can be difficult with life’s pace and challenges.  Taking time out for yourself may seem like it’s self indulgent and too difficult with all of your responsibilities, but trust me, you can’t be there for everyone else unless you take some time to nurture yourself.  It takes time, hard work and some soul searching to make positive long term changes but it can be done.

I know that I am going to do the hard work to “fix” my blind spots.  It won’t be easy but the first step is realizing that I need to do the work. The next step is whatever needs to be done next!  I know that I can do it, and I also know that you can do it. I am here if you need an encouraging word, or some help. You can email me at lori@fitnessjourney.ca

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

You’re in the club

You’re in the club

A while ago I was stopped in a line up of cars at a red light and in front of me was a person on a motorcycle.  I also observed that across the intersection was another person on a motorcycle.  This was not unusual to see cyclists or motorcyclists because it was midsummer.  What struck me as odd or very interesting, was once the traffic started moving, the two motorcycle guys made a “hi, how ya doing” wave of their hands at each other and I immediately thought, ‘hey, they’re in “the club”’.  It was odd because neither were wearing “the colours” of a club, or had the same motorcycle, or maybe weren’t even the same sex (who could tell with their helmets on?) or anything that would make me think they were in a club but all the same, they obviously felt some sort of brotherhood/sisterhood, or kinship with each other.

As I started to reflect on this, because that’s what one does, when one has these sorts of random insights, I realized that so often we aspire to be in some sort of club or at least want to feel like we belong.  I suppose it’s human nature.  As a child I was a Brownie, a Girl Guide, part of the Drama club, a singer in a Jazz choir and a member on a few sports teams.  But, I have also felt the sting of not being part of the “inside/cool girls” clique, not getting a spot on the team, or the lead in the musical.

As an adult we learn to deal with life’s disappointments.  We learn to grow a thicker skin and we move on and learn that we are not going to be liked by everyone and we are not going to fit into every group. We choose our friends, who we want to spend time with, what clubs/organizations we want to join and we choose activities and people within those groups who mirror our interests.

My interest in fitness was never part of my desire to become a member of a club. Over the years it has certainly become sort of like that, but my initial interest was purely self serving. I wanted to get fit and healthy for ME!!!  I did not feel any sense of needing to be in a club or to be part of a group. I knew I needed to get fit first for myself and secondly for those around me. It was an awakening of a true sense of self that propelled me to want to take care of myself, be healthier and live to see and play with my grandkids (some day).  But as I have journeyed into the fitness world and made some great friends and networked, I have in some small way become a part of a club. I have colleagues, mentors, friends and clients who are also in the club. Giving my time and energy to this “club” has improved my life, my sense of self, my attitudes and enriched my life beyond my dreams.

So whether it is by choice to join an organization, a “true”club or just to hanging out in a certain coffee shop or a gym, being part of a club can be a wonderful thing. It raises your awareness of who you are in relationship to others and can also make you ponder if you want to be part of the club or just have a kinship with people who have the same interests as you…..just like the guys on the motorcycles.  So the next time you are at a gym, a coffee shop, or at a group/club meeting take a look around and be thankful for the kinship you have with others in that moment.  They may look like they are just random people taking part in whatever, but they may also be there to teach you something about yourself, if you choose to take time to wonder about random insights.

In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Before and After

Before and After

I am a sucker for “Before” and “After” transformations.  I love to see what people can achieve and where they started to where they are in their “after”.  But these people are so much more than the photos or TV episodes that they share.  They are people just like me, or my clients who have struggles  and successes, families and friends and a life.

Do you ever think of your life in terms of “Before” and “After”?  For instance, before and after:  graduating school, marriage, kids, someone’s death or accident or disease? Some of these things can be positive and some can be downright sad or depressing.  As with anything it’s all in our perspective. You can look forward to the “after” or you can be stressed and/or paralysed with fear about the after or the unknown.

When we are in the now, or the “before” we wonder what the “after” will be like. In some instances it can fill us with anticipation or with dread.  But I want to suggest that we relish and embrace the now or the “before”, because being in the moment and knowing that you have the ability to move forward and get to the “after” is part of the beauty of the journey.

It has taken me a long time and much effort to transition to this way of thinking and being in the present.  I have learned to enjoy the journey and to make every effort to be prese
nt even in the tough times on my way to “after”.  During my Mum’s illness, I tried very hard to be present and to relish every moment I had with her.  Even though my “after” was having to deal with her death and not having her in my life, I remember those present moments with love and fondness.

In fitness, we are most often on a quest to an after….”after I lose 10-20-30 lbs”, “after I achieve ?”, “after I run this race” etc etc.  What we fail to realize is that there is growth in the journey! Being present and learning about ourselves, our bodies, and our emotions (cuz let’s face it, we do have some crazy emotions when we are prepping for something big!) is part of the process.

I am sharing this with you because I wanted very much to have some “Before and After”pictures of me on my website. I wanted to show that with dedication and proper programming and nutrition you can transform your body and make progress.  BUT, in the process, what I learned is that I am SO much more than the transformation. I learned about my strength, my stubbornness, my dedication, my integrity, my passions, my friendships, my family,  and most of all about my willingness to make mistakes along the way and to not give up and to enjoy the journey.  I am SO much more than “Before and After” photos!! Here they are anyway! J

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In health and fitness,

Coach Lori

Why I am writing a blog

Why I am writing a blog

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Isn’t everyone writing a blog these days?  Maybe I am wrong in this perception but that is NOT why I am writing a blog.  I am writing not because it’s “expected” of me, but rather because I want the ability to connect with my clients and other people, to share my wisdom/life experiences, and to offer encouragement and support.

As a small child writing became a way for me to process life and to get my feelings out and to have a record of what was happening in my life from day to day.  I remember my very first diary had a red plaid cover with gold edged pages and a tiny little lock.  The lock was very important to me because I didn’t want my brothers to read my diary.  I wrote about school, how I hated math, how I “loved” a certain boy and how much drama was going on at school.

I guess I got my love of writing about life from my mum. She always wrote in a journal and would even journal about our family vacations. Now that she is gone, my brothers and I treasure those vacation journals as a very special part of our mum. And I treasure that I have my mum’s voice in my head as I read them and love seeing her beautiful teacher handwriting.

I journal pretty much every morning and have done so for many years.  I have many filled journals with my horrible handwriting…I did not inherit my mum’s lovely script!  To have a written record of my life makes me happy and to know where I have been and what I have learned along the way spurs me on to new revelations and to wanting to learn more about myself and the world around me.  Most often this is a reminder to me that life is not stagnant. To keep moving is life’s way of making us learn and grow from our experiences, our joys and our pain.

Journalling about my gym experiences has also taught me so much about myself. It isn’t so much about my personal goals and how much I have lifted or how many squats I have done, but where my head was at on a given day and how I pulled myself out of a funk or how joyful I was at the gym when I helped someone or even how empowered I felt just sweating it out to my 70’s music.

I hope that you will enjoy reading my blog posts, as much as I will enjoy “writing” them. I intend to share my life with you and chat about life, fitness, nutrition, mindset, and anything else that strikes my fancy that I think will be encouraging and uplifting to you.

Till my next post….enjoy life and remember fitness is a journey worth taking!

Coach Lori

ps. If only that picture above could be me on a beach writing my blog….maybe some day!?

 

 

Consistency and Patience

Consistency and Patience

It seems like the world has gone nuts over “extreme sports”, “elite fitness”, or being “badass”.  It’s so trendy right now to work out like crazy and live by the credo “go hard or go home”.  It seems like people are buying into the idea that if you don’t exercise for hours at time or do some sort of insane work out, that you are not exercising enough, to be healthy and fit.

What’s wrong with shooting for the moon and achieving your goals?  Absolutely nothing!  I think if you have a goal you should work your butt off to achieve it. What I don’t think is cool, is perpetuating the myth that doing “extreme, insane workouts”, or competing in “extreme races” is the ONLY way to be healthy and fit.  This type of mentality only messes with the minds of the general population when all they really want to know is the easiest way to get fit and healthy.

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE to be in the gym, and I love weight training. I love to push my abilities/boundaries and achieve PR’s (personal records) and….lets be real, I love to be a bit of a badass…just ask my friends!

BUT, my main goal is long term.  I want to be able to sustain the exercise and habits that I have for the rest of my life. And this is what I want for my clients as well. This is why my coaching philosophy and the way I train clients teaches them sustainable habits, including nutrition and functional movement exercise.

What is the easiest way to get fit and healthy?  Consistency and patience!  So many people start out and want the quick fix and believe the magazine covers that tell them do these 3, 5,10 moves and eat these “super”foods and you will look like the cover model in 21 days!  Remember, those cover models exercise and model for a living…it’s their job and they look great on that cover with the help of a whole team of people!

My philosophy is: consistently  (this will change based on your goals) weight train 2-3 times per week, do some form of moderate intensity cardiovascular exercise 1-3 times per week, and eat a sound nutritional diet, and you have the makings of a healthy and fit life!  Simple, yes?  But it’s hard to do because we all want it NOW, without the consistency, work or patience.

Small sustainable changes over the course of time make a big difference. Make those changes patiently and consistently and see what happens!